30 things I’ve learnt in the first year of my thirties

Merry Musing

Today is my 31st birthday and it’s hard to believe that the first year of my 30’s is over. But what a year it’s been! While my twenties were fun, they were also tough. A decade spent trying to work out who I was, what I wanted, how I fit into the world and what was in store for me. But already my thirties feel different. I feel more confident in who I am as a person and what I want from life. I may still feel like an 18 year old in my head, but the experience and knowledge I’ve gained in my twenties are starting to make me feel like my thirties really will be my best decade yet. So here are the 30 things I’ve learnt in the first year of my thirties.

Merry Musing

  1. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time
  2. Actions really do speak louder than words
  3. If you believe it, anything is possible
  4. Surround yourself with people that believe in you
  5. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, do it. Time is short, don’t waste it all on things you don’t want to do
  6. Surround yourself with positive people. The haters are always going to hate, but don’t let the negative people bring you down
  7. Be kind to everyone
  8. It really is none of your business what other people think of you
  9. So don’t try and make someone like you. It’ll always end in failure
  10. Just remember that not everyone will like you, but not everyone matters
  11. Learn to say ‘No’. You need to protect your time so that you have the time for what, and who really matters in your life
  12. But also, learn to say ‘yes’ a little more to things that scare you, and feed your soul
  13. After all, you can’t grow as a person if you stay in your comfort zone
  14. Money doesn’t buy you happiness, but it does buy shoes and handbags and that’s kinda the same thing right?
  15. Support other women and celebrate their success.
  16. The only person you’re in competition with is yourself
  17. So don’t compare your chapter 7 to someone else’s chapter 17
  18. Just stick in your lane, work hard and be the best version of you
  19. Success doesn’t just come from hard work, it comes from commitment as well
  20. Insanity really is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result
  21. Be OK with being OK. Stop chasing perfection. It doesn’t exist
  22. You really do create your own luck. So work hard, believe in yourself, surround yourself with positive and supportive people and have the right attitude to achieve what you want to achieve
  23. You’re stronger than you think
  24. When an opportunity presents itself, take it
  25. Remember that nothing really happens by accident
  26. It’s not a sign of weakness if you ask for help
  27. Treasure true friendships
  28. Don’t forget to smile and have fun
  29. Travel as often and as far as you can
  30. Find what you love, what you’re passionate about and do it!

Merry Musing

And if this past year is anything to go by, I can’t wait to see what’s in store for me now I’m 31.

Thank you to Sarah for the pictures


  1. December 20, 2017 / 9:45 am

    Happy birthday! Brilliant post, I’m still learning a lot of these things and I’m 36.. I don’t think I’ll ever stop learning!

  2. December 20, 2017 / 11:23 am

    Happy Birthday, I still can’t get over that you’re 31. Great points, I do think it’s important to know your balance between saying no to things which aren’t for you and saying yes to new experiences x

  3. December 20, 2017 / 5:16 pm

    The 30’s are ALOT of fun so bucket in and enjoy it! I have loved mine so far!

  4. December 21, 2017 / 10:04 am

    I have found that age is something that just developed with me, and I became less afraid of a number, and became more aware of how each year brought more life experience and knowledge to me. It is lovely to read your list, and good to know it has been a good year for you. May your 31st be even more so.

  5. December 21, 2017 / 12:15 pm

    I loved my thirties because i had confidence in who I was and was young enough to enjoy them

  6. December 21, 2017 / 10:41 pm

    I loved this post! I’m only just 20 and I’ve already learned the importance of keeping your closest friends even closer to you, it’s one of those things you realize when you go to university I think. Also I love the hat and scarf x

  7. Helen
    December 22, 2017 / 3:12 pm

    Happy Birthday! I love this post and your list. I agree about everything you’ve said about your thirties. You really do come into your own skin, know what you want and are happier saying no to the things you don’t. My thirties have been my best years so far.

  8. December 22, 2017 / 5:00 pm

    I hope you had a fab birthday and learning to say no is a great lesson x

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