Why the wrong choices can bring us to the right places

Merry Musing

Happy Monday everyone. And if you’re in the UK, happy Bank Holiday Monday! Now I don’t know about you but Mondays are a great chance to start the week afresh. Start the week with the motivation and determination to have the best week possible. And I’m not sure a week can start even better than with a Bank Holiday. But seeing as it is a Monday. I thought I’d share with you a bit of a personal, but (hopefully) motivational post.

I’m sure I’ve touched on this before, but two years ago, I felt like the bottom had fallen out of my world. My life as I knew it, and the life I thought I would have, changed in an instant. The relationship that I was in ended in the most abrupt and horrible way. I’m still suffering with the ramifications from that day, and from that two year relationship. But it was the bad decisions I made, including being in that relationship, that have led me to where I am today. And I feel like that is exactly where I am meant to be.

My experiences have made me who I am. It’s no secret that the biggest mistakes we make are the ones that affect us the most. As it’s usually these mistakes that have dire consequences. Consequences that can live with us forever. But it’s from making those mistakes and living with those consequences that make us who we are.

Now don’t get me wrong. At 30, this wasn’t how I thought my life would be. I thought I’d be in a settled relationship. Possible engaged and definitely living in a place of my own. But that’s not happened. And I’m OK with that. The bad decisions that I’ve made. And trust me there have been many! Have made me a better, stronger, more confident person. And I’m not sure I’d be any of those things if life had gone how I’d “planned”.

Which is why I’m grateful that the wrong choices have bought me to where I am today. Which is the place I’m meant to be. Personally I’m happier than I’ve been in a long time. I have so many wonderful people around me who support me and love me. And professionally things are better than ever. I’m lucky enough to love the job I do and have a hobby that I’m so passionate about. And I know that I wouldn’t be in this position unless I’d made some bad choices in the past. Choices that have led me to where I am today. And that’s exactly where I need to be.

Do you believe that the wrong choices can bring us to the right places?


  1. May 29, 2017 / 7:37 am

    Such a good post Stephanie and I totally ageee with you. My life now is exactly what I want it to be and that’s as a result of getting out of the biggest mistake I’ve ever made and learning from that. You go girl!
    Julie xx

  2. May 29, 2017 / 9:41 pm

    Sorry to hear that you went through a painful breakup but I am so pleased that you are healing. I like the idea of wrong choices bringing us to the right places. I believe that has happened to me before x

  3. May 29, 2017 / 10:10 pm

    There is nothing worse than a relationship ending in a most abrupt and horrible way, but you are correct that sometimes wring choices can bring you to the right places 🙂 x

  4. May 29, 2017 / 11:01 pm

    Sorry to hear about your break up, it’s always an awful thing to go through but as you say I truly believe that ‘everything happens for a reason’ as cliched as it can be. Sometimes those events we don’t choose often put us on the right path to where we really should be.

    Victoria x

  5. hannah
    May 29, 2017 / 11:07 pm

    I sort of agree with you on this, it is quite strange but wrong choices can sometimes bring us to somehere good. Thanks for sharing

  6. May 30, 2017 / 8:55 am

    I totally agree with this, everything (even the rubbish stuff) happens for a reason. I too agree that my bad decisions have made me the person I am and am therefore grateful for them.

  7. May 30, 2017 / 9:11 am

    You absolutely would not be who you are with the confidence you have had it not been from the lessons and decisions of the past. All too often what seems like a bad decision is only feels likes a bad one in the short term. With time one’s perspective changes.

  8. May 30, 2017 / 9:16 am

    Breakups are never easy, i went through something similar in the past and I know how it feels. But I agree with you, everything happens for a reason, and Im now stronger and happier than Ive ever been, and I’m glad you’re too 🙂

  9. May 30, 2017 / 10:54 am

    It’s awful that you had a horrible break up, but you have a great positive outlook on things now. I hope things get better and better for you.

  10. May 30, 2017 / 1:49 pm

    I believe that everything happens for a reason. Ending up with someone also gives an opportunity to be with the right one.

  11. May 30, 2017 / 2:37 pm

    Wonderful to hear how well you’re feeling and doing! Realising you’re in a good place is such a lovely feeling x

  12. Dannii
    May 30, 2017 / 2:58 pm

    I think that there is always something to learn from any situation, no matter how bad it might seem at the time.

  13. May 30, 2017 / 6:18 pm

    Love this post and I completely agree, everything happens for a reason

  14. May 31, 2017 / 3:25 pm

    This one was a refreshing one to read, Stephanie. I sometimes feel like I am failing at 24 for being single, unsettled and definitely no where near moving out yet. However, I know it’s now totally normal and that I shouldn’t feel like I am in a big rush to do everything all at once!

  15. May 31, 2017 / 3:51 pm

    I am a firm believer in that everything happens for the right reasons!

  16. May 31, 2017 / 5:05 pm

    I think things happening for a reason and clearly it was the right thing to happen as it has led you down a better path.

  17. May 31, 2017 / 6:54 pm

    I totally agree with this! Things DO happen for a reason, even if at the time your world is caving in. I am so pleased that you are loving right where you are now!

  18. francesca
    May 31, 2017 / 8:34 pm

    I absolutely agree! I believe everything happens for a reason so even if something wrong or bad happens I manage to put a positive twist on it because its not permanent it leads us to where we are suppose to be!

  19. May 31, 2017 / 10:58 pm

    Interesting post. I don’t think it is really a ‘wrong’ choice if you think it has led you where you’re meant to be. I think it would seem to be a wrong choice if you were still regretting it.

  20. June 1, 2017 / 8:49 am

    Happy to hear you’re enjoying where you are now, always remember there is time for everything and your choices good or bad shapes our life journey as they say experience is the greatest teacher.

  21. June 1, 2017 / 9:06 am

    You’re a very strong and positive woman. Experience and well learnt lessons sometimes are what we really need.

  22. June 1, 2017 / 10:35 am

    I agree. Sometimes life is not as expected but we can be happy with the way things are and its good to read you are happy.

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