I know you might be thinking that this post should be more motivating and empowering. A post about why you don’t need a man to enjoy your life. And that sisters are doing it for themselves etc. And it’s true. You don’t need a partner to enjoy your life. And sisters are doing it for themselves. But it doesn’t take away from the fact that it can suck to be single on Valentine’s Day. Now I’m not looking for any sympathy. And this isn’t a man bashing post. It’s just my reasons for why I think being single on this particular day sucks big time.
I’ve spent most of my twenties single. So spending Valentine’s Day on my own isn’t a new thing. But it doesn’t take away how crappy the day can be when you don’t have a Valentine. It’s a public reminder that no-one wants to send you flowers, give you a cute card and take you out for dinner. Now these may be cheesy cliches. And they are. But they’re also reminders that someone out there loves for you. Like really loves you. Yes your friends and family love you. But when you’re in a relationship with someone it’s a different kind of love.
The kind of love that makes the world go round and it’s what the purpose of life is right? It’s about meeting someone who you want to do everything and nothing with. That person who will be there in the good times and the bad. Who will love you as you develop and grow as a person. And Valentine’s Day is a celebration of that love. Now of course plenty of couples choose not to celebrate the day. Thinking it’s a commercialised gimmick. And maybe it is. But it’s easy to laugh it off when you have someone to laugh it off with.
This year was actually the first time in a long time that I didn’t think I’d be alone on Valentine’s Day. And I was looking forward to getting to do all the cliched couple things I’d seen so many of my friends do for years. But it clearly wasn’t meant to be. But that’s life for you right? Now I don’t want you thinking I’m bitter or unhappy about the situation. I’m (hopefully) neither of those things. And I’m OK with being single. I’m used to being on my own. After all ex’s are ex’s for a reason. But it can still suck to be single on Valentine’s Day.
What are your thoughts on Valentine’s Day?