I’m not really sure where to start with this blog post. And a part of me can’t even believe I’m writing this. I mean it’s 2018, yet I don’t feel we’re any closer to being in a position where women can support other women. A New Year is meant to be about new beginnings. Which is why I’m hoping that 2018 is the year that women start supporting each other. Not tearing each other down.
And from what I’ve seen over the past year in the blogging community, I really hope this happens soon. As some of the behaviour lately has been horrible. I’ve seen women bully each other on Twitter. Start spats and witch hunts over false allegations and hearsay. PRs have told me of bloggers bitching about others in the community and actively encouraging the PR not to work with those bloggers. And only work with them. Maybe the blogging community is unique, in a way I hope it is. As this kind of behaviour and jealousy of other people succeeding isn’t a nice environment to be in.
I want to be part of a community that supports each other’s achievements. It’s amazing that people are making money and carving a career out of an industry that simply didn’t exist five years ago. And I fully support anyone who is able to earn money from doing something they love. That in itself is incredible! And while the majority of the blogging community are lovely and supportive, and are each other’s biggest cheerleaders. You do have some toxic people who take pleasure in knocking people down.
While I don’t agree with some of the tactics others have used to get ahead in the past 12 months. I do believe in karma. And those that have cheated to get ahead will now doubt have karma knocking them down soon enough. But in the short term I’m not sure what the solution is. All I’m hoping for is that rather than hiding behind their phones and keyboards, the women who seem to take pleasure in blowing out other women’s candles. Will realise that by doing so, it doesn’t make theirs shine any brighter. Jealousy is an ugly trait and they must be deeply unhappy in themselves to get pleasure from trying to tear down someone else.
I’m incredibly lucky to have some amazing female friends both in the community and outside it. They support me with my goals, encourage me to work harder and congratulate me on my achievements. They are honestly some of the most important relationships in my life. And I would be lost without them. They’re the reason I am who I am. Why I’m as happy and content as I am. And why I’m always working hard to push myself to achieve my dreams. When women support other women, incredible things DO happen.
Which is why I want to do more to actively support women in the blogging community who are doing great things. It’s really not easy trying to run a blog. Especially when we all have so many other things to juggle like jobs, school, families, children, social lives and everything else in between. So let me know in the comments who your favourite bloggers are and why you follow them. Let’s start the year as we mean to go on by spreading some happiness, joy and building up the incredible women out there blogging like the #GirlBoss’s they are.
Thank you to Sarah for the pictures!